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Honestly, I think condoms are unrealistic. Fucking with a condom is so totally useless that you almost feel a bit resentful of the woman after. Like she has bad minge or something. The first time I had sex I was a good boy and used a condom and I just quit after a while, and sat down and wondered what the fuck was wrong. She thought I'd finished.
Saying "wear a rubber" is stupid. For a lot of people, sex with a condom is completely useless. I'll wear one the first time with a woman as I ofc want to get imtimate, but the sex itself will be useless.
If you aren't creative enough to get off, then sex with you is probably useless too. 🤷🏼♀️
But lame ass roasting aside, being responsible during sex is important. Being able to communicate your wants and needs is absolutely necessary. I'll tell you that I also hated condoms during sex, but it took being with my partner about six months before I felt comfortable enough to bring up a discussion about having sex without condoms. We then talked about the risks of accidental pregnancy, STDs, and my hormones and birth control. In the long term, the time period we used condoms was worth it because we learned each other's bodies, as well as each other's personalities. Once we did move to sex without condoms, it was sooooo much better, but we also were better communicators and the sex was wayyy more fun.
You have to be willing to put in the time and effort and trust that leads to a real connection first.
Not gonna pretend that I don't deserve it, or that I'm very polite either, but beginning every response with an insult is not some clever 'roasting'.
I don't agree with you that it should take half a year of learning your partner for sex to be good. If you're attentive and interested in getting your partner off, then you can do that the first time, or certainly atleast in a shorter time than that. But it's going to differ between different people ofc.