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What is the most unhelpful advice you have received? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'll go first: "You have to have children when you're young," told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.

Also: Responding to "How do I deal with this problem?" questions with "Oh, don't worry about it, it's enough that you're even thinking about it!"

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[–] [email protected] 54 points 1 year ago (3 children)

"sleep when the baby sleeps"

Yeah because there's absolutely nothing that needs to be done once I finally get my daughter down. No washing and sterilising, for prep for us or for her, general chores around the house which you can never do effectively one handed. And fuck me if I wanted to try and relax and have an actual evening after they're down too.

"Sleeping like a baby" had also never seemed like such a juxtaposition!

[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I feel like the phrase "sleeping like a baby" was not created by someone who was a primary caretaker for a baby.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago

Exactly, unless they actually meant it to mean "for no more than 30 minutes then wake up crying inconsolably because I've shit myself."

Then they hit the nail on the head and people have just misconstrued it!

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

Here's some more unhelpful advice: Hang in there, it gets easier! (for real though)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Also, like, adult humans don't do so good if they only get to sleep for an hour or two at a time. I don't have kids but I have a puppy and my mental health improved 10x when he stopped waking up every night because he needed to pee. Just going from two 4-hour blocks of sleep to one 8-hour block.

Then he hit puppy adolescence and had a massive sleep regression and I was getting an hour or two of sleep at a time between SCREAMING PUPPY INTERLUDES and promptly lost my fucking mind. I gave up on crating him because I needed the sleep.