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[–] [email protected] 124 points 6 months ago (4 children)

I swear to fucking god the next white dude who tries to play Devil's Advocate with me is getting throwen out the window.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 6 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 42 points 6 months ago (1 children)

The more aggressive form of thrown

TMYK

[–] [email protected] 23 points 6 months ago (4 children)

No, that's defenestration. You're thinking of a seat used by a monarch, denoting power and authority over a country.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 6 months ago (2 children)

No that’s a throne, you’re thinking of a dwarven son of thrain,

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago

Thorin, son of Thrain, son of Thror

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 months ago

You lure them in a false sense of safety and superiority by giving them a nice chair and then meet them out

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 6 months ago

Thrown with intenten

[–] [email protected] 25 points 6 months ago (1 children)

getting throwen out the window.

Dude! You had the perfect opportunity to use the magnificent word "defenestrated"!

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago

Wdym? They got to use throwen

[–] [email protected] 16 points 6 months ago

But did you know that the devil wears cool skirts you can buy?

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago

just to play devils advocate here. Lets say there's a window behind you, and i'm not currently playing devils advocate. And then i throw you out of the window first...

[–] [email protected] 82 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Honestly it's fucked up how our school system treats children. We need to talk about racism but also about how children are not to be seen as some sort of human clay that we need to form into whatever we see fit.

[–] [email protected] 59 points 6 months ago (3 children)

It's not entirely clear what you're saying, but the sooner we acknowledge that children are inevitably formed by their environment and there's no "natural" way to let them somehow form themselves the sooner we can start discussing what is good to teach them and the correct way to do it.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Oh so you want to groom children? (this is sarcasm trying to point out why we can't have nice things)

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago

Unironically yes. I want to groom them to be a wonderful, compassionate member of society with the tools to manage their mental health and ask for help when they need it.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I'm not entirely sure what you're saying either, but nature vs nurture wasn't settled in nurture's favor. It's somewhere in between.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 6 months ago (2 children)

I'll be honest, this doesn't really make sense as a response to my post. It wouldn't really matter where you or I fall on the nature vs nurture argument for my post to be relevant. (Unless one of us somehow believed it was entirely nature.)

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 6 months ago (1 children)

“Our school system”?

Dunno where you’re from, but different countries have different standards of education.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 months ago (1 children)

They're from the racist country that isn't allowed to talk about it. I get the US defaultism but cmon

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 6 months ago

children are clay. That's the problem. The issue arises with how do we best raise them to be most equipped to tackle every day things.

Personally, i'm of the belief that we should teach them as much as possible, get them into more complex fields earlier, sociology and psychology especially. A good psych/socio class experience in HS can REALLY change someones life for the better.

Saying that children aren't to be treated like clay is wrong. They are clay, we need to be conscious of that, and sculpt them into a properly functioning human, who can enjoy life, and respect others. Not just raise them to be a wage slave or whatever the fuck the current meta is now. We saw this exact problem with the "feral child" incident.

[–] [email protected] 74 points 6 months ago (1 children)

There was a weird incident in class where a good amount of my classmates, including some who were POC, believed that black people were biologically more aggressive based on anecdotal experience.

I'm white but I was arguing against this because it made no sense. As a possible explanation I argued that black communities are typically poorer because of history (slavery, segregation, ect) and that poor and desperate communities are whats more likely to be violent.

It seemed to get them to pause for a moment. I'm sure I wasn't as nuanced as I'd be now but I was a dumb reactionary teenager talking to dumb reactionary teenagers.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago

you were right, class solidification has been happening and has had an effect since long ago.

[–] [email protected] 70 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Ok, so my boring take on this: I think the word privilege is overused. In my mind there is a basic level of human decency everyone should be treated with. If you are treated above and beyond that, you have some privilege. Situations like the one mentioned in this post (to my mind) don't speak to a lack of privilege, but to the presence of oppression.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 6 months ago (2 children)

I see your point, but I do think that "privilege" is normally used in a way that includes freedom from oppression.

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Shouldnt be and being are two different concepts. Lack of discrimination shouldnt be a privilege, but it is. I dont think hiding it is a part of the solution

[–] [email protected] 12 points 6 months ago

Privilege comes from "private law", so would mean the ability to be judged in a different way to other people and therefore to perhaps avoid punishment for things others would suffer.

[–] [email protected] 44 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I have personally been called slurs in my school and been forced to explain why I don't deserve death for "invoking gods wrath which will cause the death of humanity" (the great sin is being Asexual).

[–] [email protected] 24 points 6 months ago

How dare you not think people are hot.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Not in high school. I was privileged and lived in a wonder-bread suburb. But a lot of people then (fewer now) believed those with mental illness should be treated like Jason Voorhees and gunned down like a rabid animal or locked in an institution and kept tranquilized my the nurses.

I did believe in the late '80s I could negotiate with law enforcement and was able to navigate though some troubling encounters. If I wasn't Scandinavian white, those could well have gone differently.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago (2 children)

You do know that Jason Voorhees murders people, right?

I say this because it’s not like he’s a misunderstood crazy person…

[–] [email protected] 14 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Yes, in the 1980s, it was presumed by the ignorant public that all crazy people were a danger to themselves or others. It was the era of serial killers, psychopaths and sociopaths.

A serial killer is a specific kind of killing pattern identified by law enforcement investigators (contrast spree killers and rampage killers.) Serial killers are extremely rare, and don't have a corellation to mental illness or any specific diagnosis. Despite reports in the 70s that asserted (without evidence) serial killers are responsible for 5000 homicides a year in the US (they are not), in fact, you're more likely to get killed by lightning (less than 50 per year in the US) than by an active serial killer.

A psychopath is a designation by an expert witness in a courtroom, often by a psychiatric professional who has not actually assessed the suspect, but is guessing based on publicly known facts regarding his behavior, the way an armchair psychiatrist might guess that Trump suffers from NPD. In the 1980s, designating a suspect as a psychopath was to suggest he doesn't need a motive. Psychosis is the category of diagnosis, but isn't related.

Sociopathy was a personality disorder (Personality disorders are actually, less abnormal than what I have, a psychosis called Major Depression, though their dysfunction can be more evident) Sociopathy was retired in the DSM V, and replaced with antisocial personality disorder. While dangerous APD subjects exist, their rate of violent crime per capita is less than the general population. Though their rate of being victims of violent crime is higher than the general mean. Sociopath is also used as a forensic term to convince juries that a suspect is too dangerous for society.

These days, while we have more awareness of mental illness, there still remain some stereotypes and biases. The public doesn't want me to have access to guns, for example, on the single basis I have a diagnosis. (It's a difficult sell, since the US has a lot of veterans with diagnoses and guns, and could not be easily disarmed without creating a big bloody mess. They also go on and off suicide watch, and some counties have a delicate let your friend hold your gun for you program so as to not endanger law enforcement by forcing them to disarm trained soldiers with combat PTSD and justifiable grounds for paranoia)

Then there's the matter that the institutions in the United States intended to secure inpatients are closely tied to its institutions for securing inmates (for whom we have no love and are glad to leave in squalor). Inpatients get about the same degree of abuse as inmates by their alleged caretakers (violence or sexual assault by orderlies, or abuse of pharmaceuticals by the nurses, who are fond of over-administering tranquilizers to keep the kooks quiet). Our public has about the same empathy for the crazies as they do the convicts, even when the inpatients didn't necessarily do anything wrong to be denied their civil liberties.

So yeah, the likes of Voorhees and Kruger and Dolarhyde and Lecter have affected sentiments about us lunatics the way Peter Benchley's Jaws affected attitudes about sharks, the effects of which are seen to this day, say when police routinely gun down subjects of mental health crises (which are disproportionately counted among officer involved homicide.)

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago (4 children)

You do understand that treating a "misunderstood crazy person" like a psychopathic undead killing-machine is bad, right?

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 6 months ago (1 children)
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It happened to me because we were discussing the Nazi's views on racial hierarchy in sophomore honors history class and I'm ethnically Jewish. It was a surreal experience.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 6 months ago (13 children)

I always took the weak position in persuasive essay assignments and debate class. I thought it was more of a challenge to argue for the wrong side.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (6 children)

i hate when debate pieces are presented. It's such bullshit. Just let me talk about the two sides and then fuck off. You don't need me to explain to you how to think about something. You have a brain, i put ALL the shit you could ever possibly want right in front of you and now you decide "oh no i need you to tell me how to think, i no rember, it hard" Fuck you.

don't get me wrong, i enjoy researching and writing them. But fucking hell, you don't have to have an opinion about every little fucking thing to exist.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 6 months ago

The one debate I had in high school was whether or not humans should incorporate artificial (bionic) parts into their bodies. I had to argue against so much stupid bullshit that I lost plenty of respect for most of them - I do not even want to imagine how I would have felt if the matter of debate had been whether or not I should have equal rights. The following day everyone agreed that I won the debate though.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 6 months ago (6 children)

I don't get it, why would one debate human rights? Is it because it's unfortunate to have dumb people in class or what are we talking about here?

[–] [email protected] 23 points 6 months ago

I debated abortion in school a couple decades ago. I would consider that a human right but I had to debate the opposite at the time.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 6 months ago

Comes up in politics or ethics discussions a lot. Or at least it used to when I was in school. Things like gay rights, women's rights, right to die, etc etc

[–] [email protected] 16 points 6 months ago

It's worse because you aren't debating human rights, you are debating what human is.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago

I teach - I have to debate my basic human rights every day (sleep and time spent not working are apparently not rights I hold according to our more entitled students/managers).

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 18 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Yeah I had to debate my right to marry in high school

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