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When I was on Reddit I felt like my opinion didn’t matter. But here it just feels more open and free.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

I'm definitely trying to be, which isn't difficult considering that my last comment there was a year ago, and I only made 5 comments that year.

I'd been on reddit for 11 years, and I was more active back then, but I sort of started to just lurk more as time went by, probably because there was an ocean of comments in every post

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I've been spending more time here. Could be the newness factor or maybe it's just more engaging. It's going to be a lot different only because of the smaller population. I think Reddit may have been too big for its own good.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Yes! English is not my first language, so commenting on Reddit made me nervous. I find Lemmy to be more forgiving (if that makes sense?) as well.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

About the same, however engagement here seems to be easier and better all around. Have only run into 1 or 2 pedantic assholes as opposed to reddit being like 80% pedantic assholes.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think so. I feel the camaraderie is much higher here as well, since we’re all refugees together in a sense, but also part of a great new thing.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It's a numbers thing and it's why empathy tends to diminish as population swells.

Here it feels like community, like one's opinion is appreciated. Reddit became a place to hope you get acknowledged at all, where swaths of the community came solely waiting to shout others down and win a fight.

Unfortunately, for all of Reddit's faults, that wasn't a reddit thing, that was just a glaring, crippling defect inherent to humanity. As numbers increase here, that old familiar reddit apathy and antagonism will return. Just play the game of what would you be willing to do, not just rhetoric, for a random person in your circle of friends vs someone from your town/city vs the world. Psychologists call it psychic numbing.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I wouldn't say I'm more active in terms of posting and commenting, though I wasn't too active on Reddit the last few years to begin with. Though the fact I haven't logged into my Reddit account of 10 years since checking out Lemmy speaks to how at-home I feel here, even after basically giving up one of the sites I used the most in the past decade or so.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I was a lurker on Reddit. I had less than 500 Karma when I deleted my 12-year-old account a couple weeks ago.

I've already been more active on Lemmy than I was my entire time on Reddit. Everything here just feels more genuine.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Oh, absolutely! I did a lot of consuming on Reddit, and only participated in a couple specific communities.

Here, I feel far more inclined to actively participate.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

I check Lemmy multiple times per day now!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

I think the biggest difference here is that I keep getting surprised by how civil most of the discussions are.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The issue with reddit is that it turns everyone into know it all assholes. The discussion is absolutely horrendous over there. Here it's so much better and more sensible.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Yeah I'm easy more active here that on Reddit, though I was very active when Reddit was younger. It just got too big and lost that feeling of taking to actual people and contributing to the overall experience.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm certainly not as depressed after scrolling here as opposed to redditt. The magic pixie wranglers at Lemmy don't seem to be as centered on eyeballs on the screen sucking your soul while you're doom scrolling. I'll take it as a win.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Reddit's winning formula: repost, repost, Trump, repost, fight video, repost, repost, social media drama

I've noticed lately that it's just trying to raise the temperature in the room. It has become facebook

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

In the 13 years I've had a Reddit account, I made 40 comments, and 4 posts.

In the 15 days I've had a Lemmy account, I've made 28 comments and 1 post.

Now I wouldn't want to be one for extrapolating from data of different timescales, but...

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

I am, absolutely, less intimidating. Remember there are literally dozens of us.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

I used to use Reddit through throwaway accounts. Was never a regular user, and moved away from it over a year ago now. Just stopped posting to socials a lot.

Mental health has gotten better, and I've been more active here than I ever was on Reddit because I just enjoy the vibes the place gives me overall.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Might be a case of "grass is always greener." I feel like more eyes and engagement happens for my posts and comments on Reddit. Over here it feels empty yet full, which is weird.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Yes. I'm looking forward to more original content rather that all of the reposts from reddit. I'm not sure when that tipping point will be, but I hope it doesn't have to do anything with poo.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I was only active on certain small subreddits, here I am active in more different communities.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Haven't touched reddit in 2 weeks

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Im more active when I'm here and I spend less time online overall. I spend less time angry.

Although probably here still a bit too much. I should go touch grass but to fair it's over 110 F outside and I have to be near my laptop for work so, here I sit.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Yes because we need to drive the content machine here otherwise this place looks stale

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

i feel most of the people that actually made the jump to lemmy are the more mature and calmer crowd as compared to your average Redditor

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This is an incorrect assessment of the facks. I believe it to be the same people that hate reddit for banning them....and me. You know... Good people 😁. People who like and say weird shit. People who find useful ways to use reddit....and then reddit finds out it's useful and replaces you with a bot or someone else.....

Reddit's modo should be "build our communities! And get the fuck out! They're our communities!"

I am the former admin for r/keitruck and r/Seattlegay. One day I started to notice hate messages. I might have replied. Then I noticed a deluged of that until one morning I got a message saying I was banned. I spent all my fun pandemic free time building those two places. So fuck reddit.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Yes, to put my money where my mouth is.

In early 2022, a few months prior to the first rumors Elon Musk might acquire Twitter, I left both Twitter and Reddit for the Fediverse, making it a point to contribute a tiny bit of the content and interaction that help platforms reach critical mass.

In case you're wondering, I left Twitter because the algorithms had made me essentially invisible. There was no point posting or interacting there.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Tip for when Lemmy becomes bigger: Find a niche community that's big enough you get seen, but small enough you get noticed.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I feel more obligated to contribute here because I want Lemmy as a whole to be more active. More content = more users.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I feel like the nays will be underrepresented bc of selection bias so I'll be one.

So far I have not had the same engagement. But I am convinced that is bc I have yet to get used to the jerboa UI/UX. I am more active once I feel at home, was the same for reddit, is the same for lemmy.

Its great that you feel more impactful on lemmy! I think on reddit you either feel the way you have or are constantly being called a slur (say "tankie") and removed/banned left and right.

So far lemmy seems way more authentic to me. Less capital interest, PR companies, bots, astroturf, think tank/gov-adjacent hacks. I like that.

Alos writing this made me realize my mode of commenting is still very much a reddit one

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I didn't even have an account on reddit for the last few years because I was getting too active and I could feel the karma cravings so I just deleted my account and lurked using old.reddit.com.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

100%. I've always been a lurker but on lemmy, and I don't know why, but I feel more comfortable interacting and making comments. Haven't made a post yet. Maybe one day

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Yeah, it's fun being part of a smaller community.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'm generally less active here right now, but I feel like I'm more free to speak my opinion, overall the community here just feels friendlier

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

For what it's worth, I posted once on Reddit in the last year (and that was related to Sync shutting down) where as I've posted 4 times so far here.

I'm generally a lurker but perhaps the newness of it makes me feel that my posts won't be drowned out so it makes it more worthwhile taking the effort.

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