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Until yesterday I used to have long hair. Due to unusually high tempetures I started having problems with the skin on my head. So, to avoid problems. I shaved it clean and it will remain that way until the skin in treated.

Now that I'm bald, I now know what's it's like. It sucks. My old hair suited me perfectly. It was messy just the right amount, perfect length, made me look different than the rest and handsome as hell. Every girl would look at me where ever I went to. Compliments floating over the air, jealous looks from other men etc. etc. It made me feel powerful.

But most importantly, it suited my personality and clothing. It was perfect! But now it's gone. I hate bald me. I will never look back at this bald version of myself.

It feels weird. I don't feel that bad but still it's disheartening.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

What issues were you having?

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago (2 children)

If you were getting bald (which you might not) you'd have 2 options:

  • hair transplant (if needed) and medication for the rest of your life.
  • shave/trim and move on

I'm generally for team 2. I'd hate medicating (which from internet opinion has various long-lasting unwanted side effects) for the rest of my life for such stupid thing.

I must confess, I have the benefit that I don't look that bad. Also, being fit becomes much more required when bald, ๐Ÿ˜…, you have to compensate your older look; and side effects from exercise are virtually all positive. So I'll take it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

accepting your baldness will always look better than being all wojak-nooo about it.

though that doesnt seem to be the issue here.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

I really didn't want to go the medicine route years back. Like OP Im a guy who always kept it long. I decided to give the basic regimen a try and went with a keeps like service because dermatologists are by far the worst doctors I've had to work with.

And although it thinned, the thinning totally stalled, to a point where it's a little noticable but on a good day isn't at all.

I haven't cut my hair in years and despite it being annoying to take care of sometimes, I get to look in the mirror and see the version of myself that I like to see which makes the little bit of medication worth it imo.

I always hated the "just shave it and own it, bro" attitude because damn my hair is part of my identity, I love having it. I'll put some effort into keeping it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

As a long time balding man, shave it all off with clippers, then go at it with a razor ever few days. Never look back. It's a good look. I love it.

Plus my scalp looks like a chopping block with the number of times I've busted my head on something and I think the scars look sort of cool. ๐Ÿ˜Ž

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Problems with skin can be treated even without shaving. You don't need to keep it shaved if you don't feel good in it. Ask women, they're used to treating their skin problems without shaving their hair off.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

My mom used to say "it's just hair, you can shave your head and it grows back" whenever we did something extreme with our hair.

First - you probably look better than you think, and remember it will grow back, it's probably good you give your scalp some air. As it grows back, set up a routine to keep everything healthy up there!

Rock it. Feel free, enjoy the summer with no hair in your way. You will quickly handle whatever is going on. Hair grows about 6" a year so it doesn't really take as long as it seems to grow it back.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago
  • Try finasteride/dutasteride and rogaine
  • transplant
  • microneedling
  • vitamin d (low chance but cant hurt)
[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

I think he ought to become your role model now. You know how many girls went crazy for that dude (and his shaved look)?

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Don't try to half cope, everyone will smell the desperation. Gotta embrace it and stay all the way bald. Other men seem to notice and care more about it than women honestly.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Wear a Lex Luthor suit. Or a Charlie Brown suit.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Just think of yourself as Rob Halford for the time being.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

All the men on my mom's side of the family have been bald for as long as I can remember so I knew I was doomed when my hair started thinning in my early twenties. Now that I've been shaving it for years, I don't miss it one bit. It's so much less of a hassle than keeping it clean and straight and cut neatly.

It's just hair. You can either own it or wear a hat while you wait a few months until it grows back -- and then be grateful that it still does.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Shave it. I did when mine started going and the maintenance is super easy. I'd never go back.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

I started that like 10 years ago, unfortunately I have a funky shaped head so it doesn't look as good as it may on others but I do enjoy the maintenance on it. I can definitely tell these days it won't grow back like it used to (much thinner on the top, edging back on the top sides). However being able to use a hair trimmer once a week myself is cheap, and less things to do while getting ready in the morning.

I can understand since society seems to put value on hair but not worrying about it (some confidence) goes a long way. I barely think about it nowadays.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

it's time to get into wigs

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Ah damn, thats ass. I have long thick curly hair that goes down to my mid-back and this heat is also causing a scalp condition of mine to flair up. I just can't shave it though, don't have the willpower. I will stay itchy thanks

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Youโ€™ll get used to it. Find a few nice hats you like. It has more to do with temperature control than vanity. I find I get cold easier.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

You could always try having some fun with wigs. Lots of options there, from realistic to completely outlandish. You could even try cutting & styling one if you wanted it to look similar.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Depends on how good you look bald I guess. Either way, good to accessorize

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

When I started shaving i went all the way smooth....didnt jive with me. Let it grow and used clippers the next week, set to the closest and that worked great...

You could not ask me to have hair again.

Give yourself a minute...it grows back.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Youโ€™ll get used to it soon, so distract yourself away from the hairstyle. I feel that way everytime I cut my hair

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

There is a Seinfeld episode about this.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

The best thing you can do is accept the inevitable. If it's that important, get over it the same way you would an ex or the death of a loved one. In my case that means round up some friends and go get so drunk that you need to be carried home.

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 3 months ago
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