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[โ€“] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (8 children)

OP's out there on first dates asking if they have a problem with him doing it...

I can't imagine women are bringing it up

[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Not necessarily first dates. I just answer truthfully when the topic comes up. I don't want to have it be a problem further down the line

[โ€“] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (6 children)

I just answer truthfully when the topic comes up

It's just really hard to believe a women asks if you've had sex with a sex worker...

Most people don't ask for numbers, let alone details.

[โ€“] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It has unfortunately come up before, hence my aprehension in approaching the topic.

[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Seems like you got the intended consequence. If you want to be honest and your partner can't handle that honesty, maybe it is better to keep looking. I have a very hard time maintaining lies to continue relationships, and as a result I have very few, but incredibly high-quality friends.

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