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Cisgender people of Lemmygrad: why are you cis? (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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~semi-~ Serious question, Idon’t get it. Most of us get why the hegemonic gender system is stupid, why subscribe to the binary role you were assigned? Also, why do straight people exist? Maybe it’s just me but I like to look and feel like my own perception of what is attractive.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 7 months ago

I'm AMAB and never felt any other way than masculine. I'm also straight because that's just what I'm attracted to. I was never raised to subscribe to gender roles by my family, and I've never thought people ought to. I know now that gender is a social construct, but I still choose to identify as such because it's just what I am - what I feel to be. I don't think it's all that different to how my trans and NB friends choose to identify; only that society treats me better for it, which is a tragedy.

I don't really feel duped or forced into this. I don't feel unnatural just because how I identify lines up with how I "should" identify according to my country.