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submitted 11 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

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tweet by @Grace_Segers:

"Me, writing an email:

I'm using an exclamation point so you know I'm friendly and excited! But now I'm using a period so that you know I'm not crazy. Here's another sentence with a period as a buffer, proving my normalness. Thanks so much!"

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[–] [email protected] 72 points 11 months ago

I feel horribly exposed right now.

[–] [email protected] 59 points 11 months ago

As someone who works in sales, all my emails to customers are in this exact format

[–] [email protected] 41 points 11 months ago (3 children)

And here's a vaguely annoyed sentence but I won't put a full stop at the end of it so that it seems like it's just an offhand comment and not a dig at you

If I put a full stop at the end it seems a bit too blunt.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

You think punctuation comes across as critical/blunt, so you just... don't end sentences? I guess it doesn't matter much for texts or social media or wherever, but that reasoning is just... wild.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Ohhhhhh. Penny drops.

I always interpreted those as meaning "so exasperated with you I can't even finish my sentence".

[–] [email protected] 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Of late punctuation seems to be interpreted as aggression I will not participate in the madness full stop exclamation point period

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I don't. know. whether, to, be, dismayed; or: delighted!

I must be coming across as super aggressive and alpha.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Or you’re just William Shatner.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago

Or... Walken!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

And here I am reading it and just thinking "it's hard to take this buffoon seriously, he doesn't even take the time to ensure proper punctuation before sending emails."

When you neglect to ensure clarity of your emails using proper spelling, grammar and punctuation, you steal time and energy from all the receivers who have to spend extra effort trying to understand what you're saying. I find poor language to be arrogant and disrespectful.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

Lol rite? Cu Monday!!!

/S

[–] [email protected] 32 points 11 months ago

OMG, I feel so seen rn 😳

[–] [email protected] 14 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I used to have to respond to all the reviews people posed on the website where I worked and I was encouraged to use more exclamation points. I hated it.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 11 months ago (1 children)

In one short comment you've made me go from vaguely appreciating a friendly, prompt and punctuated reply to a review, to making every exclamation punched message smell like sweet sticky corporate sarcasm.

Thanks. I'm a new me.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago

In my case, it was less sarcasm and more depressed resignation. But a lot of the job involved pretending to be happy. Which sucks.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (4 children)

I use emoji in my work emails.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 11 months ago

It's the only way to show that you are a true professional. πŸ₯‡

[–] [email protected] 10 points 11 months ago (3 children)

okay but in your work emails do you say "for fuck sake," or "for fucks' sake?" It's an important distinction so that you sound professional.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 11 months ago

I say, "for fuck's sake" so they know they're dealing with my last one if they're paying attention.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

What's the MLA standard these days?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Not all ways of viewing email supports emoji J

Gotta use emoticons instead :)

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Β―\(ツ)/Β―

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I as well tend to use them in a bit more professional situations as well.
I want to show off as a relaxed person who doesn't take even work that seriously!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago

on my rΓ©sumΓ© I substitute the bullet points with emojis to ensure I stand out from other applicants, and so the hiring managers know what a pleasant fun person I am.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 11 months ago

Recruiters writing an email:

Oh my God the drugs kick in and I'm overwhelmed by bullshit! I'm diarrheaing it all into my keyboard and mention non benefits and try to sell on site working as hybrid! Here's a joke so lame your toenails will curl up while reading! Oh God, now the drugs wear off and I need more!!!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 11 months ago

Thank you for explaining this!

I have learned a bit...

Nice post.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

I tend to use lots of emojis so folks know how I feel (that I'm not in a bad mood) because misunderstandings have happened before.
Sometimes I however also use an exclamation mark as saying something happily, without emojis. I know this can mean the contrary to that what I intend to say to some message receivers.

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Make sure you explain calmly to folks what you think/feel if they question or even attack against something you let out! Misunderstandings are stupid, they can be avoided and fixed, and people's days can be not-ruined ❀

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Then there's my emails, which are just "k".

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Please tell me that’s not how you respond to an email with several questions in it…..

[–] [email protected] 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago (3 children)

I just drop kicked a kitten and that’s on you

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago

I take no responsibility

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago