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I did vasectomy at age of 21 (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Yeah. Year ago I decided to take my money (over $800 including all checkups and gas) and make myself childfree.

Did doctor asked me am I sure? Yes Do I regret it? Hell no!

I had an internal giggle when I saw smoke coming from where my balls are (since procedure was painless)

Sometimes people tell me it wasn't smart, but they have kids so I ignore them.

I really hate the thought of having children :)

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (22 children)

I have a friend who did the same at that age. 10 years later, he and his partner have decided they want kids.

I’m glad that you are happy and sincerely hope that you and your future partners remain happy with this choice for the rest of your life.

For others of your age who might be considering the same, I must say that I do generally discourage making permanent life choices before full frontal lobe development. That is a tome of your life where you’re going through an incredible amount of change, your values and what you want in life might not be the at 21 and 26.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (12 children)

You may not understand how insulting and condescending your comment is.

Just because breeding is the default, you shouldn't be proselytizing against sterilization.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (4 children)

I think you may have misunderstood some of what they were getting at.

To make a bad equivalency: would you have any reservations with someone younger than 18 choosing to have a vasectomy/tubes tied? What about 16? 13?

At some point we are going to agree that making that permanent¹ life choice isn't a good idea as they just simply aren't mature enough.

What the person you're responding to is trying to get at, I think, is that many of these preferences or desires can easily change in your formative years as a young adult (18-25 for full frontal lobe development, I believe).

¹I am aware that vasectomies and tubal ligations can be reversed, but that's not something you would want to be relying on with these choices. Similar to how you don't plan to be able to have a tattoo removed a few years down the line when you decide you don't like it.