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Passive Aggressive signals (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 month ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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What are some passive aggressive signals or signs you see? Could be from co workers, strangers, that supposed friendly baker last week.

It rustles my jimmies when someone is pulling off that smiling friendly attitude but they're actually being sarcastic or make off hand comments about me. It's almost like a way to goad me into being the arsehole of the conversation.

What about you?

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (3 children)

My wife is queen of passive aggression. She will say certain things that only hint at something being my fault, or sigh or do certain things in a way that shows discomfort

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Knew someone like this, took a while to learn how unhealthy it is. Politely call it out by asking "This seems to really be bothering you and I don't want to be doing that to you. What's actually wrong here?"

For many, it's amazing how quickly behaviors can change when they realize they can be straight forward without a negative reaction.

Edit: Supportive can be the best reaction in most situations. Home, work, etc. As long as it doesn't harm your own mental or physical health, and that you also get what you need.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I think that's a perfect response. You're leading with sincerity, but also throwing it back on them to try and reason out what's really bothering them (rather than taking it on yourself).

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Thanks, over the years I have failed enough at this to learn. Hoping others can benefit from that without the hurdles to get there.