Canada

Both my parents attended residential school in the 40s and 50s. Dad went to St Anne's in Fort Albany and mom went south near Sudbury. Mom's experience was bad but not too terrible. Dad's was one of pure terror and torture and he never really admitted to anything until the last five years of his life in his 70s. The family asked him for detailed information to fill out forms to write a description of his experiences but it was so terrible for him that we were barely able to write a page of stuff. He was so angry, ashamed, sad and upset about it all ... we could only talk about it for so long before we had to stop. He got a settlement package and he could have asked for more because the stories that were shared by others that he went to school with were absolutely terrible ... but he didn't want to .. he said it was in the past, nothing can be done about it and he just wanted to forget it all. He said that the settlement was for his grandkids and that they could at least have that.

The most terrible thing about all this is in knowing my parents experience, knowing how terrorized they were and yet there are still people out there who absolutely don't believe it ... or dismiss it as the past and should be forgotten about. Dad did want to forget partly because he said that he didn't quite believe anyone would do anything about it all ... he was surprised when he received any kind of settlement.

It's terrible that this happened to my parents .... it continues to be terrible for my family because many people still disbelieve what happened to them.