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"Men are victims of the patriarchy too" is an incredibly powerful message that I wish more men understood.
Most feminists don't even acknowledge this. Or they say even if men are victims, they deserve it for participating in the patriarchy.
As a staunch feminist whose friends are all feminists, I have never heard a single one say—or even imply—anything like that. I very much know how extremely painful it is to have your feelings ignored and invalidated, so garbage like that is a dealbreaker.
If you're hearing this claim from people irl, they're saying it because they're shitty people... not because they call themselves "feminists".
Whereas plenty of guys have. I'd like to consider myself a feminist, but in my experience, I'm not welcome to the label, since it seems that progressive women are less compassionate than "nonpolitical" ones when it comes to relating to the issues of men. It's obviously not some issue with feminism, but we don't get to have popular movements and also ignore their ills. The vast majority of educated feminists agree with you. The vast majority of people in the streets calling themselves feminist seem entirely in it for themselves, and it's really tiresome when well-meaning feminists who aren't just exercising their trauma, the people that men like these most-need to have honest conversations with, insist that men don't know what happens to them.
Apparently, there are no misandrists, according to online discourse. Should I tell my memories they're wrong, that I should have just been more open-minded as a young child when more than one teacher preached that men are evil and stupid, and deserve subjugation? Or maybe, just like how misogynists are good at covering it up around their friends, so are the handful of misandrists who do exist?