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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

I have kids that I raise, they are great kids, I love them to death but if someone thinks kids aren't a burden (of any sort) than they're lying.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

than they are lying

? Really? Jesus fuck

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Misspelled memes / titles get more attention and up votes :/

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (8 children)

Did I use it incorrectly? I see it as a comparison of lying vs. not lying.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I get what you're saying, but in an "if... then..." statement, it's always "then" with an e.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

So it isn't a comparison but a state in time? 🤔

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Dang Englishing is hard.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Burden is the first thing that's pops in my head when I think of children

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

In comparison to what? Not having children?

I dunno. Yeah they cost money and take time, but it's what I want to do with my money and my time.

If I didn't have children I'd be burdened with stuff like eating out everyday and travelling the world. Those are also really cumbersome things to do. Cost money and take time.

I guess it is called living. I think it's alright.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Burden vs Not Burden I guess. Most of us seem like we're pretty sane people with the honesty that children are a burden and you know what, we're alright with that.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I don't want children, but I wish I would know how to handle a child so I can help out family in case needed.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

You might want to take a look at The Montessori Child. It's a book aimed at parents to make early childhood the best it can be for the kids.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I've heard of the name before. Never knew what it was about. Sounds like a good read!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Just ask the family member that you want to help what you should do. If the kids are young they like to talk your ear off or play. Many a kid used me as a make shift tree to climb on lol

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What is your definition of burden?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

To make things much harder/difficult than if it wasn't.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Ok, what things are much harder / difficult for you?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Can I get the Cliff Notes version please, I don't feel like going through all the steps.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I'm just trying to understand your POV, not trying to make a point here.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

that’s because the word “burden” carries a negative connotation with it, implying that it’s something you’d rather not have to be burdened with.

ideally, you would see your kids as a commitment or responsibility rather than a burden.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Definitely due to the negative image of the word for some people and I guess a sentence could be crafted to make something like saying kids are a burden to make it sound cheerful and some people would be fooled by it lol

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

This post is all the bad things about r/unpopularopinion

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[–] [email protected] -2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It depends on how self centered you are. It's like that song "He Ain't Heavy, He's My Brother" by The Hollies. It applies to children too.

The road is long With many a winding turn That leads us to who knows where? Who knows where? But I'm strong Strong enough to carry him He ain't heavy, he's my brother

So on we go His welfare is my concern No burden is he to bear We'll get there For I know He would not encumber me He ain't heavy, he's my brother If I'm laden at all I'm laden with sadness That everyone's heart Isn't filled with the gladness Of love for one another

It's a long, long road From which there is no return While we're on the way to there Why not share? And the load Doesn't weigh me down at all He ain't heavy, he's my brother

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Perhaps but it is also unhealthy to think that way. Selfless people tend to get taken advantage of and that it in itself is a big burden. It made for good lyrics back in the time of love and peace though.

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