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If you take care of your parents or other elderly, how are you preparing to age gracefully? (linux.community)

submitted 3 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/859143

Experiencing firsthand how difficult an aging alcoholic, quadriplegic, post stroke, narcissistic, demented or simply ‘nothing’s wrong with me, I can drive, I don’t need those meds, I don’t need to go to a nursing facility’ kinda parent surely gives you some insight on what to do, what not to do and how to prepare for our own aging and eventual demise.

How do you plan to age gracefully and what advice do you have for us all?

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 3 months ago

We took care of both of our moms. It's hard. Money helped a lot - MIL had a nice savings So we never had to pay for anything. My mom had long-term care insurance, so that and her savings covered her care. It's very very stressful. You have to be able to get away occasionally and that's either hiring someone or begging friend/family for help. I hope that I'm accepting of what my kids tell me is best for me. Looking back, I wish I had listened more to what my mom told me she wanted/didn't want.