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Do you think it's appropriate to become pregnant before age 26?
Maybe stop trying to attach a number to it, whether or not to have kids is going to be a very personal thing. Instead of "should someone have kids at 21,18,27,30" or whatever
People should be asking themselves the following questions:
Some people are going to be able check all the boxes at 18/19 some aren't going to be able to until 21 or 30 or maybe even never.
Everyone is going to have to decide for themselves and stop the whole "you shouldn't have kids at X! but not past Y!" Nonsense.
The sole exception is if you're under 18, and that's mostly because you need to finish high school at a bare minimum without distractions otherwise question 4 is going to be a long hard road. Even then the exception has an exception, if you have a well off support network (like wealthy parents)
Like the article posted by the other commenter, you can be mature and ready and wildly varying ages, 25 is a pop culture myth
I'd add:
\6. Are you willing to raise a child that exceeds your expectations, is better than you and is willing to break your mold and work for a better world for everybody, even if that means disagreeing deeply with you?
If you're not, you're contributing to the world going to hell in aa hand basket, and you shouldn't procreate.
I sure don’t!
That qualifies as a permanent life decision before full frontal love development has taken place.