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I've been midgendered a few times since I have long hair - it mostly happened in my teen years (the early 00s) and I think my big bushy beard (and people being generally more considerate) has mostly stopped it. It's a bit amusing actually since I often wear skirts these days (most clothing doesn't need to be gendered). I'm sure I accidentally misgendered people in my youth (and before trans awareness was as wide spread as it is today) but these days I just avoid ever assuming someone's gender - it's not the way I'll identify people when I meet them.
I think misgendering can hurt whether it's intentional or not - so my apologies to anyone I ever accidentally misgendered - but there are some assholes that delight in doing it intentionally and those people can fuck off.
(Disclaimer, have ADHD, got distracted part way through, may be a bit rambly)
Heavy Metal never died, but it did make things confusing for people approaching long-haired metalheads from behind!