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Wow, there has been some really excellent, insightful discussion here. Thank you, everybody, for bringing your own perspectives and pulling me further away from my intellectual comfort zone and towards my emotional comfort zone.
When I came up with this idea, I thought it was genius - a perfect translation of gender identity into a nice, easily-understood series of numbers. I'm beginning to understand now that gender is too complex a subject and too subjective a complex to define in any one specific, consistent way.
That being said, I'm a dad, and for the sake of my daughter, I'll always be Dad, no matter what. But that doesn't mean I have to be a man. I still think I want to raise my kid with the concept of gender, but I'll let her see by example that that concept needn't define her in any way if she doesn't want it to or feel it should/does.
"I'm a Dad, but I don't have to be a man" is just beautiful.