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Often when I start feeling guilty for putting off a task (even if I genuinely didn't have time), the guilt makes it harder for me to get back to it. It's an additional emotion that I have to barge through in order to get started.

What if the person is annoyed with me for still not having replied? What if they've followed up with a strongly worded email that I'm now going to have to suffer through? And I'm going to have to come up with an excuse for taking so long. This would have been so much easier if I'd done it yesterday.

The guilt increases exponentially. How do you dispel it so that it's not in the way of actually getting to the task?
(Alcohol and sleep deprivation does not count)

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[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Regardless of ADHD, guilt is often not useful, and a choice we make.

I highly recommend reading Wayne Dyer's "You're Erroneous Zones" - he explains how to use Cognitive Behavioural Therapy techniques to reframe things like guilt.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Ooh, do you think you could briefly explain how he suggests that guilt should be re-framed?