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[–] [email protected] 50 points 5 months ago (2 children)

A lack of understanding interpersonal interactions.

And it’s more of a feeling than it is any single behavior. You just… know it when you see it. They simplify too much, think values/morals/rules are shared, obvious, and uniform, and that getting along with others happens solely on their terms. They kind of act like everyone but them is an NPC - not realizing to everyone but them, they’re the NPC.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 5 months ago (2 children)

That sounds like an adult with a social and/or psychological issue.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

lol. While writing that out, I had that thought too, but decided that saying it was more of a feeling was vague enough that I could hide behind that when someone inevitably pointed out it could apply to some adults, too.

I do feel it’s noticeable - an adult that has some sort of social struggle vs a kid. But it’s like… A kid seems to make statements that come from a place of naïveté, whereas an adult seems to make statements that come from a place of ignorance. Adults seem to couch their words in defensive language, while kids seem kind of blindly assertive. It truly is more of a feeling, I think.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago

This is the best way of describing it. Assertive statements with very naive foundations. I can recognise some of my own thought patterns from when I was young in some of the things they say.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

uh, you got them backwards, it sounds all weird that way. I think you meant "Tomato Tomato"

[–] noli 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

No, it's definitely "Tomato Tomato"

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

my mistake. I thought they'd said "Tomato Tomato" but now I understand I misread it and it's "Tomato Tomato". I ought to be more careful.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Might add lack of general understanding but it's pretty much what you said, like physics, math, nature and society.

They simplify too much, think values/morals/rules are shared, obvious, and uniform

A adult would usually understand enough to at least recognize there is always consequences to a lack of knowledge.