Gotta keep in mind that many internet Anarchists are angry young people who haven't had much if any connection with Anarchist or other left movements. They still mostly trapped in a world of NATO propaganda and if you uncritically accept everything NATOstan says about communism then internet "No gods no bedtimes" no theory "anarchism" looks reasonable. I'd suggest go dig in to real shit - The old school stuff like Kropotkin, but also look up modern, functioning Anarchist projects. There aren't a lot of big ones but there are lots of places where communities are run on either explicitly Anarchist lines or on lines that meaningfully run parallel to Anarchist thought. Try to look for projects outside of NATOstan and the Anglosphere. Places in the global south seem to be a lot less prone to being infected with NATO brainworms. I wish I had some examples but it's been a while since I've looked it up, but you're looking for coops, community self defense orgs, community infrastructure development, things like that. I'd say look up the Zapatistas as a starting point. Don't worry too much about what the rest of the world calls them, try to dig up their own writings about their project and how it works day to day.