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What is an event that altered you in some way? (piefed.social)

submitted 3 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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For better or worse. Small scale or large. Personal or shared. What is an event you've experienced that changed the way you act, live, feel, etc. It could be short-term or long. Share what you feel comfortable with. Triumphs and tragedies alike.

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[–] [email protected] 38 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I had a wife die from lung cancer over a ~nine month period. Cared for her etc as best I could. When they die, some part of you goes with them. I'm still alive, but not entirely. That was ten plus years ago now and I've remarried etc since, but I've taken some damage.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I understand the username now. That's rough. Good luck to you in your future.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Thank you.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Yo, jesus christ. I missed this. Big apologies. I mean it's not like...you know - my job to respond to people. But I love communicating with folks and I wanna send some kind of thank you for people who share. Cause it's ballsy, you know? It's a lot easier to not interact.

Either way, I think yours got lost in the sea of messages. But I wanted to tell you that I am sorry for your loss. I am glad that you found happiness(ish?) in the end. I haven't seen it much in life, but I have met a couple of men who have lost their wives to something out of their control. The one who left the biggest impression on me was a man who lost his wife to diabetes. He said she weighed absolutely nothing in the end, and that he could just hold her in his arms as such. And he was sweet, in the sense that he was an open communicator. But there was definetely something broken in his spirit, and something that left him wandering. Like an endless restlessness. His eyes were sharp, his voice was clear - he advised me to take care of my health because it can go faster than you think. He was probably in his mid-40s then and I hope he's found happiness since.

And like I said, hope you have too.