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Iām guessing itās all too much to deal with and heās shutting down? You can try a financial counsellor, some community centres have them free for low income earners
Edit: I donāt want to ask your area and canāt link google results on mobile but just search āfinancial counselling free victoriaā.
Iām not sure what to do about him refusing to deal with it and the friction that results. Iāve had a few people coming for me for help but refusing actual assistance and itās a very difficult situation.
You could pick one reputable number (one off the Consumer Affairs site or the Salvos) and write it on a post it. Or call them sitting with him.
But if heās shutting down or lashing out then all you can do is remember that heās an adult and responsible for himself. And check whether his finances affect yours.
Thanks. His prior therapy people were for different things but I believe relevant. Heās refusing to even look up the āoffence numbers If itās car stuff he didnāt own one then. Simple? W$onāt try.
Yeah I get the avoidance. But it does make it really tricky
Edit: thereās resources
https://www.legalaid.vic.gov.au/fines-and-infringements
https://www.legalaid.vic.gov.au/other-support-fines-and-infringements
https://vic.finefixer.org.au/results/
But if heās unwilling to engage or canāt cope then thereās not much you can do but back off to protect yourself from his reactions.