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I have a birthmark that reads 'VAGINA' on my face.
Some people treat me differently from the moment I meet them.
I say, "I think that those people are reacting to my birthmark."
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You ask: "Why assume they react to your VAGINA birthmark in particular?"
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Now, apply this to OP's wife. OP says this about her:
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I'm heavily autistic. I've figured this all out logically, as a person who has experience discrimination myself. It wasn't easy, because I don't grasp social cues natively. I thought I'd been doing something wrong for a long long time when people initially appraised me as 'other', but it turned out they were just being judgemental assholes. If you're not heavily autistic, I believe it should be easier for you to figure all this out, right?
...you have a birthmark in the shape of legible english characters, not just one, but a full sequence which spell a word?..
It was a metaphor, lol
The irony of the autistic person using a metaphor, and someone else taking it too literally. You have to laugh!
It was a dumb metaphor that made no sense.
So, a visible difference that some other people react to with prejudice is not like racism. Got it.
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I'm sure you can comprehend why removing the controversial topic of ethnic differences [controversial because e.g. some people want to claim racism is does not happen any longer, or is not of any importance when it does because 'it's illegal to discriminate'] to replace it with another visible difference made it a suitable metaphor. I'm sure that you knew this, in fact, when you called it 'dumb'.
Your annoyance is, therefore, possibly more at me saying that a woman is allowed to believe she is being targeted for racist reasons, and that such a woman should be listened to fairly. Feel free to clarify on that, if you wish. As for me, I logically believe that racism exists, as I have seen it. And that people can intuit when it is happening, as I have seen it. And that other people can disagree with it, because they profit from racism being ignored, as I have seen it.
Or maybe the problem is with you?
Well if you aren't willing to engage in any sort of introspection all metaphor is stupid probably.
I think it made sense to most other people who read it
I'm autistic also and I understood it just fine.
Yeah that was a shit metaphor.
It's about as likely as someone starting and ending all of their writing with ellipses, with some of those ellipses being incomplete.
โฆ all part of the flow mang..