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A casual community for people with ADHD

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Acceptance, Openness, Understanding, Equality, Reciprocity.

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Discussing other neurological problems like autism, anxiety, ptsd, and brain injury are allowed.
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Relevant Lemmy communities:

Neurodivergent Life Hacks

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Rant about "having ADHD is not an excuse for everything" (reddthat.com)

submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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If you haven't heard this cliche while discussing your neurodivergency with someone, then I envy your luck. Yesterday I fucked up, I feel shitty, but also I am pissed.

Our brains are impulsive af and tend to forget the most important information. We mess up, our RSD (and empathy) kicks in, we feel terrible, we vow to be more careful, but guess what? Thats fucking exhausting.

As a result, we start overthinking our every waking moment, stressing over every little thing. Because, we are trying to be aware of the things we cannot perceive.

At some point, hopefully we realize that we cannot live like that, and we start to arbitrarily ignore our compulsion to overthink. Most often that works out great because most often the threat is not real, but sometimes we make the wrong call.

The times we overthink are still more than the times we do not, and we still mess up. Let us have our fucking peace.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

Perhaps you can take solace in knowing that when you hear the phrase "good in a crisis" you can bet your ass that they only got that way by constantly fucking things up and making it work at the last second.

Those "planners" and people who can "remember things that aren't directly in front of their face" just freeze up like a deer in headlights when things go sideways.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Where do I learn the skill of remembering/noticing things that are directly in front of my face

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

If you can handle the things that aren't, we should team up.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Most of my brains bandwidth is used up by remembering things like that my passport is in that canvas bag half under my bed and that my birth certificate is in a specific stack of paper at my mums house in my former room. So yes, let's!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

Perfect! I don't know where ANY of that shit is! You're hired!

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