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i'm back after an absence; i've been working on a bunch of stuff because Cohost is shutting down at the end of the month.

the result: i have a website now, and i'm porting over my essays and running my union blog out of that. i have an RSS feed that works for both, as far as i can tell. things seem like they're calming down now so hopefully i'll be able to be around more for the remainder of this month

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[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

@alyaza it's always great to hear about someone listing their ideas on their own blog rather than on social media. It just gives the message and the space more personality and offers a different experience than posting the same message on a regular social media platform.

I also saw your article titled what i would do for a third party i actually like and I must say that I do agree with you, despite being on a slightly different political leaning, but I totally agree with you on the topic that more parties would be needed in America. Like, if I was an American, I wouldn't know who to vote (I don't know who to vote here in Romania either, lol). And I also saw the argument that the two-party system was there, among other things, to keep extremist political forces away from the mainstream. Yet we nowadays see how one of these two parties has a candidate which is a threat to democracy himself, and a threat to the entire Western world as we know it. I believe that any political system which allows for multiple parties voicing their different opinions is what we need in a healthy democracy, otherwise the system is not fully representative for the regular citizen.

Keep up with your blog ๐Ÿ˜

About my last week... well... how could I put it... hectic would be a really mild word to describe it. It was rather surreal. I'm now sitting in my bed and I still cannot believe it happened, and I still hope it was just a bad dream or something...

Last Sunday, I received the news that a friend of mine passed away. He was an awesome friend, always there for you, always of help and not only. We knew each other for more than a decade already. We've been to countless concerts and music festivals together, we traveled to a lot of places, I've even stayed at his place overnight on multiple occasions. He was about to turn 30 the next month. He did not show any signs of depression. He didn't really have any issue that I was aware of. Last time we saw each other last month, at a friend's birthday. Nothing that would make us aware of his problems at all, if he had any. He was also earning quite above average, had quite a good car, and he was about to move in an apartment that he just bought, in a new building (from what he said, it was a fairly large apartment).

He was buried this Wednesday, and many of his friends were people that I knew as well. And they said the same thing: we did not expect he would do this. We were all in shock, we just saw ourselves in a way we never saw each other so far...

I put a CW on this comment because this is really something that can come as a shock to anybody. I'm sorry for you if you're reading all this from Lemmy and you feel affected by all this, because it is not easy for me to talk about it (I think Lemmy doesn't support CWs as Mastodon, for example). Every time I tell someone about this, it is just too difficult for me to speak about it.

I just want to tell you to seek help whenever you feel like you're seeing no reason to continue with your life. I know it can be hard for you to see things differently, but do not stay quiet about it - speak about it. Speak to a friend, speak to a therapist if you can find one, create a burner account somewhere and post here on Beehaw, just don't let any of these things affect you so much that you decide to end it all. This friend of mine probably thought at some point that nobody could help him, but that was really not true. We are all deeply affected by his death and we (or at least I) just don't know how, don't know why he did this. Do not end your life, whoever you are. You still have people that look after you, you still have someone out there who cares about you, even if you do not feel like it, even if you feel lonely. And all these people would be deeply affected by your possible disappearance, more so if you are the one who takes your own life. Just don't do it!

Also, if you have a friend to who you might have become a bit distant for a while recently for whatever reason, take your time to message them - now, later, tomorrow, sometime this week - or give them a call, tell them what you feel about them and that you care about them. It will probably mean a lot to them.