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Let me preface by saying, I have my SUV all set up with a bed and a kitchen and all the amenities I need to camp out in the woods. I like it that way I'm enjoying myself I see no reason to change.

A couple of times I have mentioned that when seeing a doctor and the next thing I know, here comes the social worker with a stack of papers. I tell them that I'm doing fine. That I like how I'm living. I didn't ask for any unsolicited help. And they don't seem to listen at all. At some point they just leave me with a bunch of paperwork in a huff. I don't understand why they get so upset just because I don't want their help.

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[–] [email protected] 51 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Living in an SUV is often the first step to really needing their help. Housing insecurity is a quick road to pretty rough living. If you are in their system, in their eyes, they can actually act quickly and help you when the likely next step happens. Not being in the system is pretty slow to get help in most places.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 3 months ago (3 children)

There are a lot of nomads and van dwellers living in dispersed camping spots, traveling the country and enjoying the outdoors. We even have meetups. Others like me leave the sites better than we found them and follow all the rules. Everyone I've met so far is happy living this way. I know it seems strange, but enjoying the outdoors and not having to pay bills is wonderful to me and I get to choose solitude or community however I please. It's a very free way to live.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Oh yeah, I totally get the lifestyle. Done enough overloading to really appreciate the lifestyle. But I'm trying to explain things from their point of view. Even if now, you are in control and everything is going according to your plans, they see trouble in months if not years when those plans abruptly change. They know how most people got from point A to point B and are now sleeping in shelters or dark corners of "civilization".

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I guess from this perspective I can see that point. The last one I talked to was actually arguing with me about it and was upset when she left, I don't understand that. I wasn't confrontational with her. I just simply said I'm fine I don't really need any help have a nice day. I thought I was pretty calm. I guess it was probably just her.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)

She was probably a bit overzealous I'm thinking, yeah. But that is a thankless job with low pay and little success. I give social workers a ton of latitude. I'm glad you stayed calm in the face of things.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Out of curiosity, what were her arguments?

If you have enough resources to weather any (literal or metaphorical) storms, then you might be OK but that is not the typical situation.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 months ago (1 children)

For instance, she showed me a piece of paper where she put little yellow stars on all of the different resources. One of which was for $700 a month. I said that I don't want to pay money for rent and utilities. She then said okay well here's this place where you can live with a roommate. I said I'm not really a people person, I don't want to live with a roommate and she said well you might make a new friend. And it kind of went on like that for a while.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Ah, that’s unfortunate. If you say you’re happy in your SUV then showing you places to live that aren’t your SUV isn’t very helpful. Having a discussion about whether you’re aware of and prepared for any risks associated with living in an SUV could be productive - either you’d learn something from social worker’s knowledge of many people living in vehicles or the social worker could be reassured that you’re not in a terrible situation.

Do be careful out there! I hope you’ve got enough cash in the bank or enough credit to recover if someone messes with your SUV.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago

Thanks, I appreciate that

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago

When I find myself becoming irked by someone offering help I don't need, it helps me to think of things in terms of people who slip through the gaps: the system that the social worker is a part of strives to help those who need it, and you not needing that help makes you a false positive. You were likely flagged because sometimes when someone is living in their vehicle, this is a symptom (and reinforcing factor) of their life being in disarray. That is to say that some people who superficially look a lot like you are in need of support, and not catching these people would be false negatives. Bonus complication is that many people who do need this help may also be resistant to support (for a variety of reasons).

Given that no system is perfect, and the error rate will always be greater than zero, we can ask the hypothetical "is it better to have fewer false positives and more false negatives, or more false positives and fewer false negatives?". Put a different way, when you're bothered, that's you slipping through the gaps in a system that has opted for more false positives with the goal of helping as many people who need it as possible.

Unrelated to everything else I said, I'm glad you've been able to find a way of living that you're happy in — it is a challenge when the life that is best suited for us is one that society considers "abnormal", so I'm happy to hear about anyone who has broken into what works.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

Clearly the nomadic lifestyle does not work for everyone. Many people try it for a couple of months or a couple of years and then make a change. If you're enjoying it, great, and if you enjoy it for years or decades to come, great, but don't pretend that everyone does. And this is important because social workers cannot predict your future. They can only play the odds and make reasonable preparations for possible future badness.