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Huh, I kinda feel the opposite. You need (or at least SHOULD) be very attentive to a pup. Dogs, in general, tend to crave/require more attention. Cats are more hands-off, so they often attract the kinda people who want a pet for the sake of having a pet - which tend to be narcissistic types.*
*not true of all cat people
Interesting. My reasoning is that narcissistic people crave attention, which cats may not give so overtly as a dog. Basically for a dog, a person is a god and some people love that kind of relationship.
I've definitely seen multiple people talk about how they view it as a red flag when people like dogs but not cats because cats are mean. Their reasoning is that dogs will love you no matter what but cats have to want to get attention. The argument is that people don't understand boundaries/consent.
I see their logic, but I think it's looking a bit too far into it. Yellow flag maybe, not red.
This is my narcissistic neighbor's behavior. He has 2 dogs, but he treats them like objects and not as part of the family. He absolutely hates cats for no real reason.
It's a massive red flag. I had to help his ex wife escape from him because he's a DARVO type abuser.
Someone who doesn't like cats is a red flag for me for one simple reason:
I have cats! They're not going anywhere, either, so this probably isn't going to work out lol.
In my experience dog owners often like to control another being, cat owners like to just let others be.