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[–] [email protected] 158 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

An excuse removes responsibility.

A reason does not.

"You are excused" means you no longer are responsible for the outcome.

"I literally wasn't present when it happened, so I'm not responsible for the outcome" < excuse, which can be valid

"I knew what was going to happen, here is why I did it for a good reason" < reason

Example: three kids are present, 2 are graffiti'ing the back of a house

When caught, 1 kid says "I was trying to stop them, they wouldn't listen". This is an excuse, they're claiming they aren't at fault and not responsible for the graffiti.

Another says "the home owner deserved it, he's an asshole", this is a reason as they are clearly not avoiding responsibility.

When you try and use an excuse to get out of something thar you clearly are responsible for, that's when you will get served the "I dont want an excuse" line.

[–] [email protected] 38 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Not only was this well explained, but the short segments are great for my ADHD-phobia of large blocks of text

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 weeks ago

Ohhh damn that’s why I read the whole thing. I usually scroll past walls of text in the comments.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

When you try and use an excuse to get out of something thar you clearly are responsible for, that's when you will get served the "I dont want an excuse" line.

Or when they don't really want an explanation and just want you to admit fault and ask for forgiveness.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I mean it boils down to "you better have a super good reason for this, cuz I expect you to take responsibility either way"

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Nah, more often than not they don't give a flying fuck about the reason when they say that.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Thats pretty reductive, mate.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

Sure. And cynical. Yet true 99% of the time.