For sure. And your job is deeply important and anyone who takes it seriously, with kindness and an open mind, is aces in my book.

Re: masking, my ignorant hot take would be that the difference is less about a difference in kind of masking rather than a difference in the amount (frequency, duration, intensity) of masking. I'd say society places much higher demands in cognitive load from masking on neurodivergent folks overall compared to neurotypicals, because neurotypicals will often naturally behave in socially acceptable ways... because what's socially acceptable is often defined (not exclusively) by what is typical.