cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/19448624
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All the ways people can be not cis
(Not really, there's too many to list in a single post)
Transgender:
When one's assigned gender at birth is different from one's actual gender.Ipsogender:
Intersex people who identify as their assigned gender at birth, but do not feel the term "cisgender" applies to them.Ultergender:
Intersex people who identify as a gender other than their assigned gender at birth, but do not feel the term "transgender" describes them due to being intersex. A "trans intersex" person.Cisn't:
An umbrella for anyone who isn't cisgender.Transn't:
An umbrella for anyone who isn't transgender.Isogender:
When you're not cis, but you don't identify as trans.Absgender:
Someone beyond, between or removed from cis/trans dichotomy.Centrgender:
An umbrella for anyone who isn't cisgender or transgender.Utrinquegender:
Someone who has aspects of both trans and cis experiences.Adgender:
When someone moves towards a particular gender expression. Includes trans people as well as people who are not trans but still transition.Demicisgender:
Identifying partially as your assigned gender/sex at birth, and partially not.Demitransgender:
Identifying partially, but not completely as transgender.As shown here, it's definately not a binary Even though some people think it is.
I made this because I wanted to educate people on the diversity of gender modalities and show that it's way more complicated than saying not-cis = trans like people often say. There's way more nuance to it.
Does anyone here think they may relate to any of these other labels? I relate and identify with Isogender personally.
From what it sounds like, they seem to be talking about how people are able to identify as asexual or ace spectrum despite having libido or some sexual attraction.
In other words they are gatekeeping and opposed to the idea of ace-spec, the idea that asexuality is a spectrum. And it seems like they might feel the same way about gender too.
I have not doubt that a lot of people might be doing it, but that doesn't make it not gatekeeping. There's a lot of people who believe in transcendentalism but that doesn't make it okay or acceptable, and certainly doesn't make it not gatekeeping.
Please understand, a lot of people share sentiment like this and they act like they have the best interest for the community, but they are gatekeeping assholes who believe dumb things about not being valid as trans if you don't have gender dysphoria, or not being valid as an asexual if you feel attracted towards one person and one person only. This type of mentality hurts the community and turns us against each other, which is why it's frowned upon, and why I and others aren't as willing to give the benefit of the doubt when it comes to stuff like this.
Thank you for explaining this so well, even though you shouldn't have to.
You think gatekeeping people's identities and telling them they aren't valid is okay? I can't think of one circumstance where this shit is okay. This just seems like average gatekeeping transmed apologia. It's not your place to tell others they aren't valid.
Your apologia isn't accepted here, and isn't going to be, the removal of your other comments proves that.
I think I need to remind people of this post and that this community doesn't support gatekeeping and transphobia, including of the "Just asking questions variety".