this post was submitted on 09 Aug 2023
82 points (97.7% liked)

Asklemmy

43781 readers
1002 users here now

A loosely moderated place to ask open-ended questions

Search asklemmy ๐Ÿ”

If your post meets the following criteria, it's welcome here!

  1. Open-ended question
  2. Not offensive: at this point, we do not have the bandwidth to moderate overtly political discussions. Assume best intent and be excellent to each other.
  3. Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
  4. Not ad nauseam inducing: please make sure it is a question that would be new to most members
  5. An actual topic of discussion

Looking for support?

Looking for a community?

~Icon~ ~by~ ~@Double_[email protected]~

founded 5 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[โ€“] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I am childfree, she wasn't. 100% not going to work, but we ended on good terms all things ocnsidered.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Just wondering what about her having kids was a deal breaker for you?

[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

She didn't have kids already, but she wanted to have them in the future. I absolutely do not want kids, I even got a vasectomy in my early 20s.

It's not really an issue you can compromise on as a couple, so it was better to part amicably than pursue something with no future, for both of our sakes.

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I find the question weird.

  1. Maybe she didn't have children but wanted them, that also qualifies as non-childfree.
  2. Why is inconceivable for you not wanting kids and not wanting to be with someone who does?
[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"I wonder why" does not imply "Inconceivable!"

[โ€“] [email protected] -1 points 1 year ago

Overstressing the point for effect.