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I'll attempt a real answer. I don't hate kids or the parents of kids who care for them and raise them to be good people.
I hate that societal pressures place having kids at the near top of life's implicit goals. I hate that my wife and I almost had kids because of these pressures, when neither of us really wanted it. And if it weren't for one (slightly older than us) couple we were friends with sharing that they were childfree, we would be there, and likely unhappy about it. So we speak out, not out of hate, but just to provide the other side, it ok to have kids... It's ok to not, it's a choice.
Totally fair. Societal pressure is something to completely ignore though. Everyone doing the 'pressuring' can go fuck right off.
I have a kid. Second one on the way. I also don't like kids. None of them. I tolerate mine. I mean, I do all the good parenty things and stuff, but I can't wait for them to grow into adults.
That's the whole reason I want kids. Not because I want kids. But because I want adults I can call my children. Frankly, I don't know why, I just know I do. And I'm prepared to make the endless sacrifices that come with it. And I totally understand other people who don't want to do it.
Also, I hope to be able to raise some decent humans. The world can use those. It seems like assholes are breeding like crazy. I hope to offset that a little.