Tbh when I'm reading comments on Lemmy I'm seeing way more negativity than what was in Reddit discussions.. this comment is really an example of that too. It was a nightmare reading discussion here when Sync was released. I'm trying to like this place but I find the community here to be a bit exhausting, it seems if you don't conform to certain ideas/opinions you're just going to get torn apart in the discussion. Not to mention I'm seeing a lot more politically right leaning attitudes around here than I'm used to (which doesn't HAVE to be a bad thing but unfortunately usually ends up being so).

Not saying all of Lemmy is like this, but from what I see get voted to the top of discussions more often than not, it seems to be the vibe here. Reddit had it's issues of course but at least it still seemed to carry a lighthearted attitude in the community. I hope more people come here still and the community vibe changes.

So we are gatekeeping lemmy now lmao?

Disagree with this take in general (growth is worthwhile if only to shift communications platforms in general to open and federated protocols) but I don't think Lemmy is quite where we need it to be in order to sustain a migration. Finding a good instance is still tough, the idea of federation isn't easy to grasp for a new user yet, and the UX is still hammering out bugs. (Big thanks to all the devs that already work on Lemmy and all those that shifted over with the Reddit exodus for driving it to new heights so rapidly.)

An ideal migration from my perspective would have them find instances that cater to their interests and views and would allow easy defederation if undesired. Also, more control for the end user in what communities they see on their feeds when going through discovery (new/hot/etc feeds).

With better user controls for self moderation and better distribution of users across multiple instances I think we can have our cake and eat it too: growth towards a free world of communications without bogging us down by dealing with the folks/attitudes we find repugnant.

I agree and disagree.

If it's one or the other I'd also say we don't need growth. But truth is: We have to be of a certain size so that talking about niche topics works. Currently there are communities that just don't work because it's just one person or a very few active people and it's not enough for a conversation. It's just, we need to grow in a healthy way. In certain places and we need to attract just the right people.

But altogether it's what i've been saying about free software and/or platforms for years now. We don't need to compare ourselves to something else, we don't need to clone something else... This is our little cozy place. If i wanted everything to be like on reddit, I'd just go there and not spend my time here and complain.

One thing I disagree is that Lemmy is becoming like Reddit. I met a few nice people here. And it did and still does feel different. And maybe this place is big enough to be a home for all of us. From people who are 'toxic' in other people's eyes to people that just want to talk about 80s computers. I think we need a few things to change and a technical solution to the problem so that people can get along. We already have federation and some servers de-federating others because of fundamental disagreements. I think moderation has to be enhanced. And we need to stop showing the 'ALL' feed per default. That just contains silly memes or lots of low quality content. That'd be a good start.