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What would be a good sign coming out of such people?

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'd say it's when they get angry when you tell them the impact their behavior is having on you, instead of actually trying to have a discussion and sort the problem out.

Or they get angry with you for enforcing your boundries.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Or they gaslight you about your boundaries..

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My personal favorite is when they gaslight you about whose “fault” it was. Failing to recognize that boundaries were only enforced because of decisions they made.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

“I didn’t even know I had this boundary until I met you so, yeah, it’s not my fault this is happening…”