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Hugh Jackman and Debra Furness have separated after 27 years of marriage. This reminds me that I often think the institution of marriage is hopelessly doomed. Maybe marriage wasn't all that and a packet of chips to begin with anyway.
To give you another view:
My parents divorced after 11 years when i was five. They started hooking back up together when i was 16. They moved back in together when i was 22. They remarried a year after I did. This second round has lasted longer than the original.
Romance is farkin' weird and complicated.
Does it have to last forever for it to be good?
There is usually an expectation that marriage is until death do us part. But so often people don't make it that far, even the relationships that are seemingly rock solid. So it's like, why bother get married?
Sometimes I wonder if the expectations of marriage are actually counter productive and add pressure to a relationship which ironically contribute to its failure.
What?! Most celebrity stuff is boring as, but this one is unsettling.
B...b...but Timothee Chamalamalet and Kylie Jenner were kissing at Beyoncé's concert!!! I was shook
Who?
NGL, I do not understand this one. (I saw the tennis one.)
I just don't see the point; after a certain amount of time together a couple is considered de facto, and they have pretty much the same rights (iirc, correct me lol) as a married couple. I'm not religious (apathetic agnostic), our families don't care, we dont and wont have kids... and it costs so damn much to get married, and more to get divorced.
There are so few benefits (imo, for me personally) that I see no point. My partner knows I love him, I know he loves me, we don't need a piece of paper to prove it lol.
The bit of paper can be useful in medical or legal emergencies. It gives you an automatic overrule over other persons if they disagree with your choices. De facto isn’t a thing everywhere, and arguing it can take time that might matter. That being said, I still need to find my Recognised Relationship form and file the thing. Just incase I’m incapacitated and some moron thinks my “mother” gets a say in anything
This is exactly why I want to get married. I mean like I have feelings around marriage due to my parents divorce (as well as my mum's divorce with my ex-stepdad), and while de facto is great it doesn't take into account medical or legal things, as well as de facto only means couples who are living together. My partner and I have been together for almost 10 years and we haven't lived together yet, so because of that we're not considered de facto. Thus, when it comes to medical stuff, my mum and dad has say over things related to me, and my partner's mum has say over things related to them. It just feels like such a slap in the face.