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I actually find dating, or the experience of even trying to get a date an incredibly draining and toxic experience, and yet some people apparently enjoy it?
It's liberating to give up and throw in the towel. All of the stress, the pressure and the disappointment is gone.
I like banging my head against a brick wall until I eventually knock the wall down. Does it hurt? Yes. Does it feel awesome when the wall comes down? Also yes.
Replace when the wall comes down with if and that would be a more accurate assessment of the situation for many.
@Gibsonisafluffybutt @wscholermann I used this exact terminology in a message a few days ago to a guy I'd had a couple of good dates with who communicates so sporadically that I have a very hard time believing he's genuine. There's a feeling of exhausted resignation, but I do seem to be willing to bang my head a few more times, just in case the wall does actually crack.
Nothing wrong with giving yourself breathing space.