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I want to be respectful but if they say they don't care what pronouns I use for them, that feels like it puts the decision on me to choose what to call them and I guess I would probably default to "they" because choosing a gender for them feels weird... am I wrong?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 34 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

As someone whose pronouns are any/all I genuinely don't care, I'm not going to be offended if you pick one pronoun and stick with it - I am lazy and present male, being AMAB, so people default to he/him anyway - or just use the first one that springs to mind everytime you refer to me. Obviously I can't speak for everyone who is any/all but I imagine if most people cared they wouldn't go with any/all