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Whether consciously or subconsciously instigated. By ordinary citizens, authority figures, shop workers, bus drivers, or really anyone for that matter

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[โ€“] [email protected] 35 points 11 months ago

In personal relationships we usually call them things like "abuse tactics", "manipulation", etc.

Gaslighting gets all the press, but plain bullying is more common. It doesn't have to be a threat of violence: "go along with my whims or I'll create an unpleasant scene" is bullying too.

"You don't get to leave until my needs are satisfied" is another. Heck, I've seen that from car salesmen confronted by a customer who just wants to pay up front for a car, no financing, no extras. After the check was handed over, but before the car was brought out, there suddenly were a bunch of extra forms to say "no, I don't want these expensive extras."