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Yeah as a pretty genderfucky person, people pretty commonly misgender me, and most of the time it's no big deal. It gets pretty easy to tell when it's intentional and when it isn't. As long as people are empathetic and doing their best, it's never a problem personally.

That being said, many people outside gender norms have sustained a lot of pain over their identity, oftentimes by using pronouns intentionally to out us or otherwise belittle us. The brain maladapts, especially in more serious cases of abuse, and the limbic system takes over to keep us safe - a distinctive characteristic of PTSD. It's taken a long time (still ongoing) for me to heal from that, and lots of queer folks are still too close to active abuse to even begin the process. Any grace that one can lend people in these moments can be monumental in their healing process.

(editing to say: lmao love me some bugles too)