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IMO the quality of discussion here is about the same on reddit. Which is to say, not very good, or very deep. It's shallow observations, memes, and one liner gut reactions to headlines. People have been conditioned over the past decade to not engage with long replies or complex thoughts. It might have to do with social media becoming more or less defined by people engaging with it on mobile devices, which don't really enable that sort of engagement. But it might also be people genuinely not giving a shit anymore and only wanting that minor degree of superficial interaction.
I get better responses here on Lemmy with my longer replies, which is great. Reddit feels overall dumber now where people will try and argue that your comment with sources is somehow less compelling than someone else’s sourceless opinion (true story).
I’m having far better interactions on Lemmy.
My favorite thing about Lemmy is that you can comment on an article that's several hours old and get responses. Reddit was so big that if you didn't comment on major articles within a couple minutes of being posted, your comment would get buried under a thousand other comments and would never be seen. Commenting became a game of which top level comment you could possibly sneak your comment as a response to, even if it wasn't really a "response" to what the person had said, just to get your comment seen and have a chance at sparking a discussion.
Same. I've had mostly positive interactions with Lemmy. The content is slow to come in, but more enjoyable to read and interact with
I've had the same experiences actually. It's also a lot more common (at least from what I've experienced) to find people being more composed here even in the face of some divisive or provocative content.
Honestly, the worst thing about Lemmy is Lemmy users thinking it's better than Reddit simply by the virtue of it not being Reddit.
The platform? Yes, absolutely, a much better solution with built in checks and balances to stop one greedy company eating everyone's lunch.
The content? It's identical! (Bar a few cosplay communists that stir up drama occasionally). And some things are significantly worse like the quality of content curation and moderation.
For every person writing an "ugh you must be a Redditor"/"I thought I left this behind on Reddit" type comment,I bet there are many more people rolling their eyes and at least a few of them that end up abandoning the platform entirely.
Also let's not forget that Reddit has duration as an advantage. I can look back 10 years on a tv show that is no longer airing and there will still be discussion threads from when it came out. That's literally impossible to manufacture overnight, so Reddit has a huge edge.
That's fine so long as we're admitting it does. Reddit having a huge edge and everyone acting like it doesn't is just setting up new users for disappointment.
Oh my God right? This bull shit.
I want to like lemmy because I don't want to support a web platform that so clearly thinks so little of its users and aims for monetization that involves literally just paying for comments you want to hear.
But this self assured that lemmy is the hottest shit stuff needs to cool off. I mean look at who started this platform and the large communities of people with super simplified garbage takes on anything with an iota of complexity and you realize that people here just want to be superior without doing anything superior. But that is a great way to be lonely forever.
I think this has two parts. One, it's just so easy for any long/complex comment to attract 'attacks' that will target some small minutia. The internet in general seems to find pedantry of grammar and small inconsistencies (in an allegory, for instance, which is not supposed to be an exact match for the tale it's telling) to be the height of humor and the best way to 'counter' an argument.
Second, I think people in general are more demanding of having their space be as comfortable and similar to them as possible. My friends of nearly three decades and I have plenty of things we disagree about, and even argue about, but it seems as if differences are no longer accepted. Let's pick a common and slightly humorous one from Lemmy: if you and I were to disagree about the extent of how evil a conservative is (not even that they are evil, or do evil, or whatever else), one or the other of us would be blocking the other, haranguing the moral turpitude that is said different belief, etc.
It combines to make anything but short, bland or 'act like they are acting' comments a headache to actually post. I've found myself typing up a response to a biology article somebody had posted, and eventually just hit the cancel button because it wasn't worth the bother.
The people that think they are being clever by ignoring the entire conversation and just responding with Strawman! or Ha! You misspelled that so you don't know what you are talking about! offer so little to actual conversation that they don't even realize why no one wants to talk to them. They seem like they are just repeating what they saw people before them do without awareness or understanding of why or even what their words mean.
The internet is such a microbubbled place now. Each niche divided and divided again so that everyone can have exactly what they want and nothing more or less until each of them might as well be a homunculus living as a single entity if wasn't for the ability for someone to advertise or sell a product to that group.
I thought it is good if everyone has their own specific thing but we still need to be able to interact as a whole, and that generalized communication is a dying skill apparently. Or maybe we are just to many steps away from the original products that the internet is becoming full of Cargo Cults that just copy without reason... I dunno.
I think it has a lot to do with longer messages seeming "elitist" in addition to the tendency of trolls to find one phrase they don't like and derail the entire topic over it. You write 3 paragraphs, most don't read past the first sentence and vote based on that, and some troll starts nitpicking your use of "us" vs "we" instead of the actual topic. Over time you see putting the effort into a comment as pointless or outright adversarial, and you stop. It's the trolls and the low effort people that make having quality conversations frustrating. Not trying to gatekeep, but I firmly believe that once a site becomes popular enough that all the "Lowest Common Denominators" join, quality drops. The signal to noise ratio just becomes too much. Popularity is a death sentence on the Internet.
Also there's this legit tactic https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gish_gallop that sometimes is employed by the trolls themselves to basically DDoS people. Preferring shorter comments at all become a legit behavior if there's too many comments like that. If there's long af comment, usually I'd like to see the replies or upvotes first to defend against that.
There's just so much content now a days it's easier to just not comment to a reply and move on, where when I was on forums it was the main thing to do because there wouldn't be so many posts
Yeah I've seen some pretty benign comments get downvoted to hell here on Lemmy if they're even just a tiny bit out of line from the consensus which is no better than Reddit.
I think you're right. And if anyone wants to give a deep/thoughtful comment it often feels like swimming upstream. Nuances are ignored and people will just downvote you if they think you're disagreeing with them (even if disagreement is only partial).
Even like "I agree with your motive but think your solution isn't feasible" makes you an instant enemy.
You can't criticize in group without someone assuming you're immediately part of out group.
Have you been on reddit recently? The average discussion on Lemmy may not be super deep, but the comment sections of larger reddit threads have become downright painful to read. It honestly feels like every negative cliché about reddit has been dialed up to eleven.