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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ThrowRAuplateupearly on 2023-07-03 12:14:34+00:00.
I'm 22, my daughter is 6 and, at this point I'm pretty much a single dad. Her mom pops up sporadically.
This past spring, I began dating someone new. It's the first time I've dated anyone since my daughter's mother. She knows I have a daughter and, she's just been great about it to put it plainly. Truthfully, I was worried she'd run as soon as she heard I had a kid.
We experienced a little hiccup though a few weeks ago. My girlfriend floated the idea of meeting my daughter on Father's Day. When she saw me hesitate, she got confused and asked why I wasn't an automatic yes.
I told her that, I haven't even explained to my daughter that I'm dating and the last thing I need is to spring something like this on her. I told her that, from what I've read, you wanna be really careful about introducing kids to new girlfriends, boyfriends.
She rolled her eyes and said she didn't see the issue of spending the holiday with my daughter and I. I reinforced that this is not about me being ashamed of her or anything, its about me just wanting to be careful for my daughter.
She rolled her eyes again and said that no matter how long we wait, at some point we'll have to tell my daughter.
AITA?
NTA. However she's right, at some point they need to meet if the relationship is serious enough. When that happens is totally up to you.