Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/svntorio on 2023-07-03 19:57:19+00:00.

Ok so here’s the context. Gf is in hometown visiting her childhood friends. Doesn’t really answer my calls while she’s out with her friends and calls me back towards the end of the day. She tells me she had a drag brunch with her best friend and they made her drink. She said she had fun etc, no mention of the kiss. I wake up this morning and I see her best friend post on his story a photo of them kissing. Lips on lips, hand on face, both smiling and closing their eyes.

This just rubbed me the wrong way so I called and tried to have a conversation about it that pretty much went like you would expect it to. “ I understand that he’s your best friend and he’s gay and that it’s platonic but it still makes me uncomfortable seeing that” I tried to have a convo about it but things got heated when we started saying things like “I’m sorry but it’s no big deal” I tried to explain how that is a boundary I wanted to set and she is insinuating that I think she’s some slut who just kisses anyone, which I’ve tried to explain multiple times I’m not upset at the fact she kissed her gay best friend. I’m upset at seeing her kiss someone else like that in the first place. I tried to explain how it’s similar to cheating even though he’s gay, and how she wouldn’t like it if I kissed my lesbian bestie like that.

Anyways now she’s crying and telling him and he’s upset and they think I’m calling her a cheater. I’m really not and was trying to help her understand and now I’m wondering if I really am an ass and causing unnecessary stress. Let me know y’all