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Didn't say they were perfect, and didn't say their actions are your fault. I did say YOUR actions are yours, and yours alone.
And, dude...that's the only thing you can control. Frankly, whether you are right or wrong in the views you've stated is irrelevant. All you're gonna accomplish is twisting yourself up inside over things you cannot change.
Most importantly, if you use other people's choices as an excuse to be a shit person, that just guarantees a pattern of lose-lose scenarios in your life. If you're trying to be miserable, then go for it. But if not, well, you can only control yourself; all other "power" is an illusion.
Another way to put it: the only problems that matter are the ones that are yours. Other people's problems or choices are just a distraction; that shit ain't gonna take you anywhere. At least not anywhere you want to be. If you're not satisfied with something in life, that's on you to figure out. Blame is useless - it's not a solution, it's a trap.
I agree the only problems are your own.
Sometimes it is nice to have help with your problems though. If you are a man and want help with your problems your only choice is to confide in another man.
Women do not want to help men but they expect help from them.
That doesn't make me miserable that's just accepting the world the way it is and it's a life lesson men tend to learn the hard way. That does that mean you should be a shit person at all, it doesn't mean you should be miserable. All it is is reality that women will expect you to help with their problems but they will not help with yours. Its a harsh truth and life is better once you see it.
Uh, sure buddy. My partner is apparently imaginary, given that women who want to help men don't exist.
Anyway, choosing to harbor a prejudice against literally half of the human race does, in fact, make you a shit person.