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[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Harm done to them by other people, and justifiably and rationally looking for answers to how/why/what/where/when/who, so they can make the harm less likely to be repeated in the future by altering their behavior appropriately.

With special emphasis on the "who", because it's easier, when they should be focusing on the "how" and "why". The "why" part is the most important, but also hardest to tackle.

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

Right on the money. Psychologically, the best defense is a good offense. Socially, it's not the best choice for building communities.