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I'm all for trans rights, but there is no human right of having others be attracted to you.
Your sexual partner will be able to tell if you're trans. In a relationship I'd expect my partner to tell me they're trans.
And everyone is allowed to choose their sexual partners based on whatever criteria they want, cause really, attraction isn't something you can control anyway.
I don't. And this isn't about me, since I'm not against dating trans people at all.
But I stick to my opinion that not being attracted to trans people doesn't make you a transphobe.
Same as not being attracted to redheads doesn't make you a redheadphobe.
Yea, this whole discussion is kinda weird.
Implying that anyone has to be attracted to a whole gender at once is absolutely bananas to begin with.
I'm technically a straight cis male, mostly, maybe, I think it's a spectrum.
That doesn't mean I'm attracted to all women, trans or not.
I certainly don't expect all straight women to be attracted to me, that's just preposterous and anyone who think like this, regardless of the genders involved, is firmly into incel vibes.
Anyway, I've always been mostly attracted to people I have strong emotional connections with, and having been in a relationship for almost 20y now makes this kinda moot for me atm.
This is kinda nuts. I've chatted with some trans friends, and the consensus is they're chill about it. Transphobia's so rampant that judging anyone for their personal attractions is just not cool.
Same goes for me, for instance. I'm just not into trans guys. The world's complex, for real
I mean, is it discriminative in the purest sense of the word? Yes. But people discriminate against people as intimate partners for way shallower reasons than their gender identity and it’s considered acceptable. Think height, weight, muscle mass, sizes of various body parts. Is it discriminatory? Technically. But it’s not a hate crime any more than the other reasons I listed above are in the context of choosing an intimate partner.
Not to mention one big factor that’s important to some people: the ability to have children. As of when I posted this comment, the only trans people who can have children are the ones born with a female reproductive system who haven’t had it surgically removed. This does not make any trans people less valuable as people (thinking that would be transphobic), but it does make them incompatible as intimate partners for people who do wish to have children. At least at the time this comment was posted. I’d love for this comment to be invalidated by new medical breakthroughs at some point in the future!
You’re the one being the bigot here by caring about what goes on behind someone else’s closed doors that doesn’t involve you.