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I had a specific problem today that googling didn't help (it was a google account problem, go figure). I added reddit to the search terms and clicked into reddit for the first time in months. All I can say is that their UI is purposely horrible. Like, so fucking bad.
I would rather join tiktok than use reddit at this point. That should sound like sarcasm, or hyperbole, but it isn't. Lemmy is feeling like the last social media network I'll join, and as soon as lemmy gets to the toxicity levels of reddit, which no offense but I feel will be soon, I'm probably going to be the weird person that just uses their phone to call their family, utility companies, and watch hardcore anal fisting, footing, and prolapsing videos.
Whoa, I was with you there until the last bit.
In all seriousness, I do feel like Lemmy (and oddly, this community in particular) is quite toxic. There's a lot of shouting matches and aggressively partisan one side vs. the other commentary and voting. Even on Reddit there was more civility that encouraged discourse.
Here on Lemmy—and to continue your theme of closing a comment with an awful visual—it's often a bunch of circle jerking.
I noticed immediately that Lemmy was far less vitriolic than reddit was, but that seems to be changing quickly.
Some of my comments are entirely satire. Some are formal, but a lot of them are my not-so-hard takes or opinions on general bullshit. One of the first comments I made on lemmy a few months ago was still how I feel about social media. Once the "/s" is necessary to distinguish jokes from reality in a community, hate has already won.
While a lot of my comments are generally well received, I've been finding that my purely satirical comments have been being disliked at increasingly larger rates, seemingly because users aren't sure if I'm joking or not. Maybe it's the audience changing or maybe my satire isn't landing, but that leads me to something worse.
What I find is a more dismal indicator is that my inoculous opinions aren't being refuted, I'm just being called stupid for having them. I don't think I've outright insulted someone, or called someone stupid since I was an 11 year old on AIM, but that is what seems to be becoming the norm on lemmy.
Now I'm not saying i can't take the bullshit. Ill embrace it when given, but if this place was supposed to replace reddit, or be a more free and accepting group or communities, it's failing. Newcomers aren't going to stay here long if we can't get along, and communities aren't going to thrive with toxic echo chamber tendencies.
Anyway, if anyone wants to have tongue in cheek banter, too bad. I'll be watching Latex Angel and hotkinkyjo videos. HKJ can fit entire human leg in her torso.
Edit: I also seem to have a follower.(?) I find it odd that most of my comments have a single downvote. Maybe I'm wrong, but if I'm not, downvote away stranger. At least I know you care about me.
Are you my alter ego? I feel exactly the same way!
In many subreddits that I used to follow, there was that kind of healthy banter. I genuinely appreciated that there was a community where the collective mindset was to encourage constructive conversation, even if the content of the discussion wasn't something you'd necessarily agree with.
Looking back, I appreciate how much effort it must have taken to create and foster that space. Lemmy is unfortunately, from my experience, a much more toxic place. It would be great to see the majority of readers adopt a mentality of voting based on discourse. I know that I try to do my part…