My old person trait is that I think 'ghosting' is completely unacceptable and you owe the other person a face-to-face conversation.
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It's kind of rude though, and it may not gain you very many friends, which if that's not something you prioritize on it's fine (for you) of course.
It's almost like if two people were sitting in a restaurant talking and one person asks the other one a question and the other person just ignores them. Just seems rude to me.
Now if you're getting too many texts from one person there's a different conversation to be had about boundaries, but that's different than your point.
It isn't comparable to ignoring someone at a restaurant. A restaurant was choice made by someone to show up and participate. Consent if you will. A text message from someone was not planned or requested most of the time. It is a non consensual conversation until they choose to respond.
In the 90s it was considered fairly normal to just show up at someones house as well. If you show up to someone's house without notice now it is often considered rude. While it can be a nice surprise, whatever we are doing in the privacy of our own homes is ours to know and not for others to barge in on.
Anyways, I just checked and saw I have 1034 contacts with numbers in my phone because I never delete them. There are ~15 people I would text with. (Mostly family)
Consent is given when you give out your phone number to that person.
If you want to withdrawal consent then you need to ask them to stop texting you and to remove your phone number from their address book.