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What do you look for most in a partner (physically and personality wise) (burggit.moe)
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For me, the most important physical attributes would be a nice face (easy on the eyes) and ideally large breasts.

Personality wise, what I look for most is someone who is reasonable. Someone I can talk to about pretty much anything without fear of judgement or rash accusations.

I'm married, so I'm obviously not looking for a partner, but I thought this would be an interesting question, so I thought I'd ask.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Physically they need a face I enjoy seeing. Not a super high bar to pass I feel. Decent teeth, basic hygiene, they really just need to not look or smell like a ghoul. There's going to be a sliding scale of interest beyond that, but physical is more of a disqualifier than a qualifier for me.

Now the tougher physical one for my American ladies: she has to be lighter/thinner than me. I'm currently in less than ideal shape, but the proper fatties are immediately out. Most women will be shorter to significantly shorter than me, so this bar shouldn't be a high one to overcome, yet somehow it is.

Personality/past is going to be the highest hurdles honestly. She needs to have some sort of passion, an interest in advancing in some aspect of her life (and this cannot be a purely consumptive goal like watch X movies, go to X many places, ride X type of horse, own X type of house in Y location, etc). I'm not a fan of someone who is content to accomplish nothing in their life and stagnate at the purely average. I'd really prefer their interests somewhat coincide with mine, but as long as they're capable of coexisting I wouldn't mind.

This will go hand-in-hand with the second qualifier, she needs a fairly long time horizon outlook and a high locus of control. I'm not a fan of someone who thinks they cannot heavily influence their future and drifts from thing to thing with no thought of what they want in 5, 10, 20 or 40 years down the line and what they might need to get there. They don't need it mapped out entirely, just milestones and general targets of what they want and actual attempts to reach those goals.

Going to need them to also be at maximum a moderate, and definitely not partisan. That's going to be way too many fights over stupid shit from talking heads and is going to cause schisms.

Yes I know it's quite the tall order of requirements. I'm currently not in a condition the women I'm seeking deserve to be dating, and have stayed out of the dating pool until I improve myself, mostly in the physical environment.