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3 ways to help your child transition off screens and avoid the dreaded 'tech tantrums'
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Knowing that people think like you scares me (not for my sake, I don't have people like you around me, but for the sake of your kids and others around you who you are absolutely not even registering in your considerations).
Your experience isn't universal, and making a caveat at the end that basically excludes disabled people in your mind from society at large is gross and ableist.
The guys post history shows he's into guns and shrooms. He's got some strong opinions on kids while being less than a model parent.
One child is grown and the other almost is, and I rarely use this instance, btw. A more complete history is on lemmy.ca.
My children are A/B students and think for themselves. I haven't been angry with my kids in years and only then was it when they did something that potentially caused them harm. They don't get in trouble or get in fights. Now that the most difficult years of parenthood are over, I get to spoil them a little.
I am an engineer, and have a respectable career. I recognize psychedelics as helpful to society and are 100% legal where I live. Guns are a hobby, not my personality. (My other hobbies are plentiful as well. If you want to learn about electronics, computers, IT security, basic CNC machining, 3D printing, or numerous other topics, let me know!)
I knew it was a matter of time before these quips came up. There is nothing I said that was harmful or even suggested abuse. If parents can't look at themselves and realize that most of their child's behavior is a direct result of how the parents themselves behave, well, I can't help them.
Unfortunately, I can't write a full novel about all the nuances of being a parent. If you read my words, I tried to generalize and caveat where possible. I am being very blunt and direct and its not hard to understand that it's going to piss off someone.
My experience is absolutely not universal. Do you have a brain? Use it. Everything is situational. Adjust your actions accordingly. Be firm and kind but don't give up and cave to a child's demands. If you feel the need to judge an entire person by a single comment, you do you.
Too many parents I have seen get stuck in loops of negotiating with their kids and end up getting frustrated and yelling. People make tantrums out to be hyper-complicated when they really aren't.
Kids, for the most part, are mirrors of the parents behavior. Kids emulate behavior as it's a key part of development. If parents don't recognize their own actions and behavior has consequences, then they need to start looking deep.