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If you care about their well being, why ask questions you know make them feel uncomfortable?
Well, I don't understand why it makes them uncomfortable. If I'm on the loop about a friend or a family member that is looking for a job then I can help them if I know of an opportunity. Telling someone you haven't found a job should be something good that opens doors for you. But good to know. I just don't understand why it has become so incredibly important to avoid being uncomfortable.
unless you currently work in their industry, there's a good chance you are unlikely to be helpful. and asking regularly feels like pressure, not support, to someone who may already feel intensely pressured or distressed by their circumstances.
there's a difference between being a little uncomfortable (ordinary, day-to-day stuff) and the kind of stress a person experiences who may be unable to meet their basic needs due to unemployment.
if you care, ask how you can be supportive once and do that. trust that if something changes (and there is some other way you can be helpful), that person will let you know.
edit - typo